Let’s talk about moods. It’s something that’s been on my mind a lot this year with everything that 2020 has brought us – including lots of moodiness on my end. I’m human after all, not to mention very pregnant, so moodiness is never going to completely go away…but I do think there are ways to combat it. At least most of the time. Here’s a list of what I do when I’m feeling negative.
P.S. Paul, if you ever send me a link to this blog post, you’re dead.
+ Assess the reason for your mood
I can always feel my mood shift into the negative realm. I’m well aware I’m being moody/b*tchy/negative. The question is, do I want to do something about it? And, why am I in a mood? If the answer is valid – work is insane, my house is messy – then I apply solutions based on the problem (clean my house or whatever). If the answer is not valid – I’m just in a shitty mood – then that’s when I try to pull myself out of my mood with these tips. Getting to the root of the mood is where I start and plan accordingly.
+ Turn off social media
Especially if your mood is related to comparison or FOMO.
+ Schedule in self-care
If I’m in a bad mood for more than a couple days, it’s likely because I’m overbooked with work and run-down. This is when things that refresh me – taking baths, cooking, watching TV, doing my nails, etc. – are being pushed aside because I don’t have time. And when your days are full of sh*t you don’t necessarily want to be doing, your mood will suffer. So I suggest doing some form of self-care as soon as you can each day. Leave your phone in the other room, let your boss know you’ll be out for an hour, and do you.
For me, this is hands-down the best stress reliever (alongside sex). It’s both physical and mental and I know it’ll turn my mood around.
+ Watch a childhood movie
There’s something about feeling nostalgic that feels good!
+ Do something kind for someone else
Instead of obsessing over yourself, turn outward. Send your girlfriend flowers. Pay it forward at Starbucks. Babysit a friend’s kid. Give someone the day off and pay them, etc. Kind of like gratitude, this practice completely shifts your focus – at least for a little while.
I’m a huge fan of delegating as I’ve already mentioned in a million blog posts. If your mood is because you’re stressed, see if there are areas of your routine that you can start delegating. More of what I delegate in this post.
+ Take a mental health day
If nothing else is working, give yourself a day off. Forget about as many responsibilities as possible and just chill the f*ck out. Order takeout, do little things that make you happy (or don’t), take a long bath, and try to give yourself a day to recharge. If you have kids at home, think about booking a local hotel for the night. Boujee but necessary!
+ Accept it
Lastly, I think we all live in this culture where everyone’s life seems perfect and happy all the time. Which is bullsh*t. We all have struggles, insecurities, and moods – and that’s OK. Sometimes we just need to give ourselves a break and realize that the mood will eventually pass – and stop being so damn hard on ourselves 24/7.
What do you do to get out of a bad mood?