My 6 or 7 (?) year old self ATV riding with my dad in Eilat.
Most of my friends are at this point where they have transitioned their relationship with their parents from parents to friends. It is something I have been witnessing for a few years now, actually, and I’m lucky to be part of that with each of my own parents. The difference is, however, they are spending time with their parents together, whereas I am doing so individually. I am in no way looking for a pity party, but I am part of a divorced family, which changes the dynamic that I am referring to.
While many of my friends are having mimosa brunches, beach days, vacations, holidays, etc. with their families, I can’t help but feel a little left out of the fun. I love each family member individually (and even understand that put together it just doesn’t work), but it is a dynamic that I definitely miss as an adult. The one positive that does come out of this (and my mother will like this) though, it has forced me to reevaluate my life choices and consider raising a family of my own. If I can’t have the duo parents to happy hour with, I/we will become the parents in this configuration. Before I raise any panic in any of you, know that this will not be happening for a while, but it is a pretty big realization for me.
This is pretty off topic for me, but as I get closer to tying the knot, possibly buying a house, finally having a sense of security in a career I carved out for myself, and having my mom back (1/4 of a mile down the block, might I add), it got me thinking: Does divorce always have some kind of impact on you, even if it is just subconsciously? I would love to hear any of your thoughts.