I strive to not judge–in life & online–but it happens. I think if you’re human and have an Instagram account it is inevitable. We are fed so much content that we are bound to stumble across something that doesn’t quite seem right. I go through phases where I’m super engaged on social media (on other’s accounts) and pay really close attention to their content, Like, comment, etc. Then, other times I find myself scrolling so fast to “catch up” since I last checked, that by the time I set the phone down I realize I didn’t actually see anything. Since I’m taking the time to blog about this, I obviously spent time thinking about it. Here’s what I’m thinking.
Social media has the power to influence anyone. It’s pretty crazy, actually. I find so much inspiration through social media–recipes, home decor ideas, travel destinations, new brands to try, sometimes an outfit–but other times, I feel the content is extremely uninspired. I’m not just referring to a photo that was too simple or lacking that “wow” factor. I’m talking the posts that are just overdone. Too common / too generic / too cliche / too basic. Those posts.
Now, remember when I said I try not to judge? Well, sometimes I do [judge], and here I am confessing. I know many of my readers have blogs themselves, so I figured someone out there might benefit from reading this. By all means, post what floats your boat, but I feel you should hear me out if you’re trying to grow. Because organic growth comes when you’re putting out authentic, REAL content.
Before you scroll down and read my list of pet peeves, please take it with a grain of salt. Be acquainted with my sense of humor / personality before taking offense. View it as constructive criticism. My opinion. Because that’s all it is…my view.
-Unrealistic images. You know them very well. The flowers inside the purse. Are all your purse belonging now soaking wet? Are the flowers now dead? Why are they in your purse? The table of 40 plates of food for 1 person. Do you have a crew of 20 people hiding somewhere? If not, I find it incredibly wasteful to order that much food for a photo. The coffee. I don’t know about you, but after more than one cup I’m jittery AF. How are you drinking this much coffee (in bed, at cute cafe’s, with macarons, etc.)???
-Loop giveaways. I know there are mixed opinions about these, but I personally don’t like them. I realize it’s a great way to get another / different set of eyes on your content, but I think it’s such a saturated concept that people are now just in it for the goods. I would prefer to grow slower than to flood my feed with a loop giveaway. Not sure about you guys, but I’ve actually unfollowed some accounts after continuously seeing loop giveaways from them in my feed. It’s annoying, plain & simple.
-Robotic comments. So I’m not talking about actual robots, but basically those comments like “great one” or “major love” on every single photo in hopes for you to do the same on theirs. Why? Trying to outsmart the algorithm is silly IMO. Focus on you. Do what makes sense for the people that are already following and invested in you. Turn to them to help you spread the word and grow. I do believe in supporting other bloggers in your community 100%, but I’d prefer genuine comments than something that is essentially self-serving and thoughtless.
-Selfie videos. Kinda vain, kinda sexual, kinda too much Kylie Jenner. There is a certain level of narcissism in social media as is, but this is taking it to the next level. I guess because I target women this doesn’t make sense for me, but in general I don’t enjoy watching those (as a woman) either.
-Repetitive content. This is my biggest struggle. Because how many times can I show you guys my donuts, rosé, dogs, house, etc.?! When I don’t post on IG it’s because I’m struggling to share something interesting. I don’t like filler [content], I see right through it. On my account and on others. It’s uninspiring to me. But to be honest, I don’t do something interesting / post-worthy every damn day, so what to post on those in between days???? Seriously, what should I post?
-The creeps. Since my Instagram account was verified, I’ve started dealing with something very aggravating. Anytime I do a Live session I have 100’s (sometimes 1000’s) of creepy dudes commenting inappropriate, abusive shit. Things that don’t even make sense like “open” (open what??) “boobs boobs boobs boobs boobs boobs boobs” (umm, I have no boobs) “fuck you” (fuck you, too) “ugly” (K) etc. etc. etc. I used to have the most productive Live sessions answering relevant questions and interacting with my audience. It’s really unfortunate that these trolly men feel the need to comment such desperate, gross comments on a fucking makeup tutorial.
Ok, rant over. I don’t typically like to be a negative Nancy on the blog but I feel like lately I’ve had this conversation (when I didn’t even bring it up) so many times that I felt maybe others were feeling the same way. And don’t get me wrong, I’m definitely guilty of some of these, no doubt. But, here I am putting it out there that I’m trying really hard to not succumb to the ordinary and bring you something extraordinary. At least on those more interesting days ;)